June 8th is Best Friends Day, a day to appreciate that best bud or dutiful companion you know you can always count on. Best friends come in a lot of different forms; they can be a sibling, a spouse, a parent, a pet, or a friend who is always there for you. Today is the perfect excuse to spend a little time with your BFF, and to let that special someone know just how special they are to you.
When Chris and I got married almost two years ago, we both felt so lucky to be marrying our best friend. Our first dance was Hey There Delilah by The Plain White Tees (Chris used to sing it to me all the time, so it became “our song”), but it could just as easily have been Lucky — the duet where Jason Mraz and Colbie Caillat croon that “I’m lucky I’m in love with my best friend”. In fact, our entire relationship is based on a preceding friendship. I was still married to my first husband when Chris started working at my long-time place of employment. I was so caught up in a departmental transfer and the stress of my failing marriage, that I never really noticed Chris, except to comment to a co-worker about his incredible height. Later, when my ex-husband and I split, I had a lot of new-found time on my hands, and when I started using it to make new friends Chris was one of them. At first I didn’t view him as a possible romantic match. Even though I was only twenty-seven, at the time I thought the four year age difference made Chris too young for me — he was barely out of college and I already was ending a seven year marriage. But over time, as our friendship got stronger, a romance did develop. And here we are, over four years later, happily married and planning a family.
To celebrate Best Friends Day Chris and I ate lunch together, as usual. But we decided to get out of the office and eat in a cafe, and we both stayed off our phones during the break (a rarity), choosing to use the time to catch-up instead. Yes, it’s true — even though we live and work together, sometimes life gets so hectic that, between the chores and errands, we have to make special time to keep abreast of what’s going on with each other. In spite of the scorching “code orange” heat, lunch was wonderful. I really savor that hour together, especially when I consider the likelihood that we probably won’t work together for our entire lives.
Right now Chris is on his way back from happy hour with some friends, and I thought I’d take this opportunity, while I’m alone, to share the following quotes about friendship and let you all know why they make me think of my wonderful friend and husband: